Family changes
Our lives never stay the same – it’s what makes it all so interesting! But change can be stressful. The key is to have strong relationships to help if it gets a little tough. Your family and friends will want to help you during hard times, so talk to people about what’s happening. They might be able to offer just the right kind of support you need.
Bringing home a baby
How do you make sure you don’t lose touch with your partner when you’re both dealing with the demands and challenges of a young baby?
Try to make time for yourself and each other. Talk regularly and stay connected, and make parenting something you do together as a team. The Relationship Services website and the Relate website have more on keeping your relationship strong with a new baby.
Kids and change
Children can be quick to adapt to changes, but sometimes a change that you might be looking forward to – a new job or moving house – can be upsetting for your kids. They might need extra support and understanding.
Try to keep family routines in place, where possible. Talk with them about what is about to change, and find out how they feel about it. Involve them as much as possible – they could help pack up their room before a move, or could help you care for their new sibling.
The UK's Partnership for Children website has some tips on helping your kids to deal with change.
It's just us, now
You’ve spent the last 20 years raising your kids together… and now they’ve all moved out! It can be a scary time for them – and you. Your role as nurturer and protector is reduced, and you now have more time for yourself and your partner.
Many people enjoy the new freedom they have when their kids move out. But if your child has been the main focus of your relationship all these years, you might need to re-connect with your partner. The Relate website has some tips for getting to know each other again.
This is an exciting time, so make plans together for your future. Find ways to share time together – take up a hobby or sport that you both enjoy. The Age Concern has tips for this time of change.
