Increasing dependency

Older family members may become more dependent on others for help with daily life – preparing food, shopping or gardening, for example. Many fear that they will become a burden, so it’s important to offer assistance willingly.

This article on the Being with Grace website has tips on talking to your parents about their independence. You may not need to help in every area that your loved one needs assistance in – there may be services or other family members available. A professional needs assessment – discussed on the Age Concern website – will help determine what support your family member needs and how to access those services.

Being able to drive can be important to a person’s independence, and many older people are safe drivers. After the age of 75, drivers need to regularly renew their licence, which requires a medical certificate. Age Concern offer safe driving courses for people over 55. The Land Transport New Zealand has some tips for supporting older drivers.

If driving is no longer possible, there are other options – a mobility scooter can be a great way to get somewhere safely. Alternatively, encourage your family member to take public transport. Many seniors can travel free on the bus, train or ferry with their SuperGold Card. See the Age Concern website for more information.