Breaking Up/Divorcing Well

A relationship break up is always a difficult time – but there are things you can do to make it easier for everyone.

Things to Know When a Relationship Breaks Down
Information about child custody and access, counselling, domestic violence, relationship property, and separation and divorce.

Provided by newzealand.govt.nz, a website helping you find information and services provided by New Zealand government organisations, your local council and some community organisations, and managed and maintained by the State Services Commission, a New Zealand government department.

Relationship Services – Our Services
Ways that Relationship Services can help you to make your relationship – and your family – stronger, to help you through the hard times.

Provided by Relationship Services, a leading provider of counselling and education services in New Zealand, helping people to build better relationships.

Some Eligible for Free Counselling
Who might be eligible for free counselling, including the opportunity for couples counselling when you live in different towns.

Provided by Relationship Services, a leading provider of counselling and education services in New Zealand, helping people to build better relationships.

Family Court - Counselling
Free and confidential counselling through the Family Court for people who are having difficulties in their relationship.

Provided by Family Court of New Zealand (Ministry of Justice), part of the Ministry of Justice, which contributes to creating a fairer and safer New Zealand, and to the shared justice sector outcomes.

Ending a Relationship
Ways you can make the end of a relationship easier if you’re the one doing the breaking up, and things you can do if you’re being broken up with.

Provided by Everybody, a consumer health information resource owned and published by CMPMedica (NZ) Ltd.

Made In The Family
Thinking about your behaviour around your children, even during trying times.

Provided by Relationship Services, a leading provider of counselling and education services in New Zealand, helping people to build better relationships.

All In The Family
Keeping your children’s best interests in mind when separating.

Provided by Relationship Services, a leading provider of counselling and education services in New Zealand, helping people to build better relationships.

Division of Relationship Property - PDF 124kb
Who is covered by the Property (Relationships) Act, how property is divided under the Act, relationships of short duration, how the Act applies when a spouse or partner dies, agreements for the division of property.

Provided by Citizens’ Advice Bureaux, a voluntary organisation providing free, confidential information and advice to anyone about any query or problem.

Publications from Relationships Australia
Includes downloadable booklets covering women’s and men’s experiences of separation, including looking after yourself, mothers and children, fathers and children, relating to your former partner, making formal arrangements, looking at the future, and where you can get further assistance.

Provided by Relationships Australia, an organisation that offers resources to couples, individuals and families to help enhance and support relationships.

Moving On After Breaking Up
Things you can do to move on when a relationship is over.

Provided by BBC, a UK-based information provider, aiming to enrich people’s lives with programmes and services that inform, educate and entertain.

Separation and Divorce
Evaluating if your relationship is over, and people’s reactions to separation and divorce.

Provided by Relationships Australia, an organisation that offers resources to couples, individuals and families to help enhance and support relationships.

Is It Over?
Working out if your relationship is over, or if it’s just a phase.

Provided by BBC, a UK-based information provider, aiming to enrich people’s lives with programmes and services that inform, educate and entertain.

Separation
How different people react to separation, and how you can take care of yourself and your children.

Provided by Family Relationships Online, an Australian government website that aims to provide all families (whether together or separated) with information and advice about family relationship issues.

Parenting Plans
Providing a guide for parents to making plans for their children after separation. Includes information on who should decide on the arrangements, what to do if you’re concerned for your children’s safety, plans to suit the age of your children, listing to your children, what to do once you’ve agreed, what to do if you can’t agree, how to change a parenting plan, and what to do if someone doesn’t stick to the plan.

Provided by the Family Court of New Zealand, part of the Ministry of Justice, which contributes to creating a fairer and safer New Zealand, and to the shared justice sector outcomes.

For further resources on helping your children through a family break-up, see Children and Divorce in Raising Children (0-12 years).

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